When a case touches your heart...
You know the ones, the client you ruminate over and take home in your mind - only to find the worry ruining an otherwise pleasant evening! This can happen to all professionals but let’s take a typical Family Law case; a Divorce.
It was all going so well and the case was proceeding normally when, out of nowhere, came an explosion of anger about who was going to get the garden furniture and you noticed your client becoming completely overwhelmed..
“Oh, that’s quite normal.” I hear you say - but this isn’t about your client or how you handle the situation – this is about you being ‘Triggered’.
What are Triggers?
‘Triggers’ are guides to unprocessed memories of experiences with people, situations or circumstances. It happens when the current event re-enacts the earlier experience. Being triggered comes out of nowhere. Client says or does something - “Bang” - and you’re in the loop; Triggered!
What does Being Triggered mean?
What this means is that your reaction may be severe or unexpected. If you weren’t a professional you might espouse using colourful language! But, as a professional, you say nothing, handle the situation as best you can but then.... you can’t get it out of your mind!
Triggers are unconnscious memories that are stored in the limbic brain without context. So the series of events can pop up anywhere.
Your Wellbeing matters
Discovering your triggers is magical because once identified, you can resolve the experiencce and let the emotions go. In the above example, the trigger for you could have been the nature of the anger, denial, rejection abandonment or overwhelm.
As they say on the BBC, Trigger Warning: If you have ever been in a situation where one or all of these was present: fearsome anger, being denied, feeling rejected, abandoned and completely overwhelmed - that would do it. But it doesn't have to...
Contact
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If you’ve been feeling stressed or overwhelmed, this could be a whole new beginning.
Kindest
Caroline
I firmly believe that deep within us everything we have everything we need to achieve our goals; but sometimes we can't access it. Raising your Consciousness lifts your spirits and creates more joy…
